Sexism or just reality My wife used to hate playing cards with me. "You're too competitive," she kept saying. "You get so intense, you can't just have fun—you always have to win." That didn't have anything to do with the way I felt, but try telling her that. All I could do was deny that I'm competitive . . . . I suddenly realized that when the subject had come up before, the only reason I'd denied being …showed first 75 words of 508 total…

…showed last 75 words of 508 total…Competition has pushed them to the limits of their abilities; they've done as well as they possibly could . . . . So when my wife says that men can't relate to one another except competitively, that it's a way to disguise their animosity or assert their superiority—no more apologies from me. I now argue that there's much more going on, that men just as often use competition as a means of expressing acceptance or respect or sharing . . . .